Into The Unknown
4.March.2015
To follow your true passion is the single most terrifying adventure you will ever embark on. In my humble opinion, at least. Albeit it can, and it will, heed the most beneficial results in the long run. I am currently going through what one would call a “Quarter Life Crisis”: I’m 25, I’m earning money but not in a place where I want to be, I am extremely blessed but still find things to complain about, and my goals are bigger than my grasp (financially and at times mentally, speaking). And so, I feel quite lost. I know exactly what I want to do with my life, and who I need to be, so now what?
The name of the game is happiness, that is why we do anything we do. Some fill somber voids with clothes, drugs, food, sex, alcohol, a career. But the reason why any of us actuate these activities is to ultimately find our own personal happiness. It is innate to be happy, and it is not a crazy ideology to come into fruition. To pledge one’s life to the classic ‘pursuit of happiness’, there must be a great amount of time dedicated to this goal. In our modern fast-paced society, we seem to devote the majority of our time to the sacred fortress where we make money. Let’s face it, money and financial security are the backbone of this society. Evolving from a land built on hard work, we have come to associate the amount of hours put towards labor and the types of labor to ultimately dictate our annual salaries.
The next question to ask, having accepted this as a general fact, is how can I manipulate my time towards doing what I truly want to do without compromising my happiness? That should be easy, right? Unfortunately, or perhaps fortunately, my passions don’t fall in line with a clear cut path such as: go to college, to graduate in this major, to get an internship with this company, to get an entry level position at said company, and excel to CEO in 30 years. Not even close. For the record, I don’t hold any malcontent towards those who have chosen this path, we all color this existence in our unique ways!
My passions lie within the arts, I am a singer/songwriter/musician, a writer, a poet, and renowned neurotic humaniod. I frequently ask myself, how can anyone actually make a serious living from a career in the arts? By serious living I mean the ability to care of your family, yourself, and a possible prospective family (babies, significant others, etc.) All of that takes cash and unbridled determination, especially in the freelance/entrepreneurial world. My current job is enjoyable, I am a bartender, and thoroughly appreciate my co-workers. But the main issue here, is the thought of waking up in the morning knowing I have to go to work, it makes my stomach turn. Now, this may sound a little dramatic, but it is only to emphasize my burning desire to stop devoting hours of my life into something I have absolutely no interest in. Yet, I do have an interest in bartending: the science behind a good libation is fascinating, and I do enjoy a well-crafted beverage. Nevertheless, I’ve been seriously rethinking my life choices such as, quitting my job (with no other job on the horizon), and simply throwing myself into my music and writing. Essentially, throwing my life into the desolate abyss, (think Neitzsche on this one!) I will no longer be financially stable, at least for a period of time.
Which leads me into the serious insecurities of pushing my life into the unknown. There is an undeniable fear of failure. What if I do take this leap and fall flat on my face? What if I make negative dollars from this self investment? What if my family gives me grief for being ‘irresponsible’? Am I doomed to walk this earth alone!? Okay, so maybe the last one was a little much, but seriously. It is inevitable, as with any risk, a grand outcome will occur whether it be ‘good’ or ‘bad’.
But when you really break it down, isn’t any failure just success turned inside out? Looking back on my formative years, and even yesterday, I have tried things and failed. However, I have never actually failed because I now allow myself to learn lessons from the most adverse of situations. I do believe everything happens for its purpose, and if this is my true ideology, I should rest assured that by listening to my somatic markers, I am only being taught a lesson in order to better prepare myself for the glories that my future holds. As the new year turned I made the decision to place fearlessness at the precipice of my thought process. And right next to that, happiness.
I have realized I’m not a girl who enjoys answering to higher authorities on a daily basis. I don’t like micromanagement, or work anxieties: “Am I gonna get fired?” “Damnit, I went over my 30 minutes again.” “Great I overslept, gotta call my boss and probably get chewed out.” You know, that sort of thing. It’s not for me. As previously stated I can be neurotic, thus being able to turn a mole hill into a mountain is, at times, my specialty. So you can imagine my day-to-day life in a workplace, whether it be writing memos or serving a single scotch on the rocks.
I have a firm belief that we posses passions for a purpose. And that greater purpose, once actualized, will make the world just a little bit brighter. I believe by following our passions we are doing our part to spread light across the world. Think about it, the most shady or unhappy people you meet are usually shady because they are trying to crush a couple of extra bucks out of your wallet, or they absolutely hate their job and in turn take out their personal frustrations on loved ones or strangers. Please keep in mind I am not saying everyone in these predicaments act in such a manner, it is just a general aspect of life I have run into quite frequently. But speaking with people who love what they do, and don’t sully passions with dollar signs, they are the most infectious people of all. Their aura’s radiate such inspiration and a warming sense of comfort. And this is my goal. I don’t want to walk this earth diffusing negativity, I feel this world has enough of it. Thoughts become things, and as long as your goals are kept in mind and you are working towards them, consider them manifested. Giving into doubts will only hinder the beauties this life holds.
I say all of this, to convey a final message to you, I have decided to take the road less traveled and I am certain it will make all the difference.
∞ Sue C.